Tips for Building Confidence - Part 1
Yesterday I was asked the following question on Instagram:
“How do I become more confident in my voice”
It’s a great question and I thought it deserved more than a brief comment.
Below are 5 tips to increase your confidence and there’ll be more to come so check back soon!
1. Preparation is Key
We feel more confident when we are prepared so working on your vocal technique and having a suitable regular practice routine is important. Think about it, an athlete doesn’t just turn up and run the race, they put in regular focussed training so they can trust their abilities when it matters most.
Keep a record of your practice sessions and writing down 3 strengths of each session. Keep reminding yourself of these strengths.
2. Give Yourself Permission to Fail
When I’m coaching singers I encourage them to do two things:
In doing this, you might make some noises that weren’t planned or expected – and there’s nothing wrong with that!
Singing is an art form and art isn’t about being ‘perfect’ (in fact that word is banished from my studio). Art is about expression. Allow yourself the space to play with your instrument and see what it can do. You have a whole host of weird and wonderful sounds at your disposal so have fun playing!
3. Develop a Growth Mindset
There are two types of mindset. A fixed mindset and a growth mindset.
Someone with a fixed mindset sees their abilities and personality as, well, fixed. They tell themselves that they are either good at something or they are not. Someone with a growth mindset believes that with effort they can improve. They are more likely to enjoy challenges, take risks and achieve success. The good news is that we have control of our mindset. If it’s currently fixed, we can work to develop a growth mindset.
Each time you recognise a thought that is from the fixed mindset camp, try reframing it.
“I didn’t make the audition. I’m a terrible singer and I should just give up” (fixed)
“I didn’t make the audition. I’ll keep working on my stage craft and try again next time” (growth)
4. Comparison is the Killer of Creativity
Let’s face it, we’ve all compared ourselves to someone else before in one way or another. When we do this though, we are focusing on what we perceive to lack and not what bring to the table. You are unique. No one else has your voice, your life experience, your personality… etc. Life would be pretty boring if we were all the same so do you!
5. Be Kind and Patient with Yourself
When a toddler is learning how to walk we don’t hurl insults and laugh every time they fall. We applaud their efforts and support them in their next attempt. Try to take this approach in your own efforts.
If you find yourself getting frustrated…
Stop and take a break
Do some stretches to loosen any tension
Think about your technique and if there might be a more efficient way of doing things
Take some deep breaths
Being aware of your thoughts is important. Sometimes they can really hinder our progress and confidence. Using the ‘THINK’ model can be helpful. If the answer is ‘NO’ to any of the following, forget it an move on.
T – Is it true
H – Is it helpful
I – Is it inspiring
N – Is it necessary
K – Is it kind
I hope you find this useful, I’ll be posting more tips shortly. In the meantime, please do get in touch if you’d like some additional 1-2-1 support: firstname.lastname@example.org